The low-quality men I used to settle for in the past were dreadful – quite sad really, because I never felt like I was worth anything more. In working with Orchid, I now know exactly what I’m worth, which is A LOT. I’m worth everything I want and need to be happy!  

I now reject men who aren’t right for me, whereas my pattern before was accepting anything I could get and clinging on out of a desperation to feel loved and wanted – no matter how bad things got . It’s a big change to say “No, you’re not good enough for me!” instead of accepting any man that would have me.

I can now speak up for myself when men treat me in ways that don’t feel good. My happiness has become more important than losing anyone.

Raising my worth has also changed what I value in men dramatically. I now look for and appreciate a man’s caring nature, whereas I didn’t before. I no longer give into men just because they’re attractive. I’m repulsed when they’re not right for me on the inside – even when there’s intense chemistry and attraction.

I can now say for a fact that my pattern of choosing low-quality men is BROKEN FOREVER! I can now trust myself to make right choices that are good for me, which is such a good and lovely place to be!

With Orchid, I know that I’m on my the right track to finding the right man, and I look forward to setting a healthy, loving relationship example for my two daughters who’ve never known that before. -Clare, 38, London, UK.


I was so anxious and scared about dating after being in a marriage for over a decade.

My whole life, I was unavailable to myself and I attracted unavailable men . I wasn’t authentic, and I never claimed what I really wanted out of a relationship, so I always found myself being miserable.

In only four months of working with Orchid, I’ve come so far in many ways! I know what I want now, and I’m not making any excuses as to why I can’t have that.

My now have strong boundaries, I’m no longer a people-pleaser, and saying NO! isn’t a problem anymore!

Overall, I finally feel comfortable in my own skin, I can now trust myself and my own decision-making, and I no longer feel anxious. Instead, I feel confident that I can handle anything that comes my way, which I’m really happy about!

And, I know that this is working because for the first time in my life, I’m attracting good-quality, reliable men who show up for me and are there for me EMOTIONALLY!

At first, this was scary because I’ve never known it before, but Orchid held my hand every step of the way and helped me to know that this IS what I truly want, what I truly deserve, so now I can happily receive what I’ve always wanted and let all the goodness in! – Tracy, 39, Minnesota.


“I had a pattern of choosing emotionally unavailable men all my life, and, after two divorces, I went through an additional fifteen-year streak of attracting MORE emotionally unavailable men. Working with Orchid helped me break through years of disempowerment fast! I gained incredible confidence and started attracting more men than I had in years AT AGE 61! But, more importantly, she trained me very thoroughly on how to vet out wrong men quickly. She was there by my side the whole way to help me identify red flags early on, set strong and clear boundaries, and communicate my wants and needs to every potential man I dated. She gave me courage me to do these things even when I was afraid. But, I’m so grateful for my work with her because this is exactly what I needed to finally break through – to finally develop the personal power I needed my whole life, to break this painful lifelong pattern for good, and to attract the man and relationship I’ve always desired for myself but didn’t think existed. Instead of spending my days worrying about growing old alone, now I can enjoy sharing my life with my incredible, emotionally available man who happily gives me what I want and need! It is totally possible to feel safe, secure, and deeply connected and loved when you know what you need to do to attract the right man. I’m so glad that I took this road instead of giving up. It has led me exactly where I wanted to be – in true love with a man who’s perfect for me.” – Sandra D., 61, San Diego, CA

I have come a very, very long way ever since I started working with Orchid. In the past, I got into many relationships with lots of wrong men – even married one that I spent twelve miserable years with! After my divorce, I decided to face this problem because I knew that I was dealing with a destructive lifelong pattern that I had to break. Being determined, I educated myself, read tons of books, watched tons of summits, took courses, and got therapy, but I kept relapsing into old patterns and making bad choices because I couldn’t actually apply anything I learned – at least not very well. I had a lot of knowledge that I didn’t really know how to use. That all changed when I started working with Orchid. What’s different about her is that she actually held my hand through every dating experience, had my back, and SHOWED me HOW to apply crucial skills like setting healthy boundaries and communicating my wants and needs effectively and gracefully. And, she helped me stick to my guns! I never had the right model, training, or support until I worked with Orchid, and our work together is what made breaking the pattern of attracting emotionally unavailable men possible and real for me. Now I have a voice. I feel strong. And, I can truly say that I’ve broken all of my bad patterns and I finally have the confidence, self-trust, and skills to make right choices when it comes to men, dating, and relationships of ALL kinds. – Veronica G., 42, Portland, OR

Working with Orchid empowered me to end my vicious cycle of dating emotionally unavailable men for good! And, because I also learned how to show up in life as a worthy and valuable woman who can firmly stand for her wants and needs, I also attracted my high-quality committed husband – a beautiful man who sees and accepts me, has my back through and through, and shares my most important core values. It’s amazing how deeply we connect with each other mentally, emotionally, physically, and spiritually! I’m now completely convinced that any woman can attract profound love that’s right and good for her if she just commits to learning how.” –Monica H., 48, New York, NY

“Orchid Tao has astutely provided me with compassionate support both on a personal and professional level for years. She has helped me realize my life’s path by inspiring me to shift my thought process towards positivity and self-care. In loving myself and having a self-nurturing lifestyle, I have been able to transform my relationships and live authentically in my highest purpose. She has helped me find simple, positive affirmations that help me in my everyday life. Above all, she has listened to me in a way that helped me find my own clarity. The path to love and self-worth are difficult journeys, and having someone who truly understands and supports you is crucial. Orchid’s experience and education allows her to be a Light, an inspirational Spirit, and a deep supporter for anyone who is called to her. Thank you for everything, Orchid!”  –Hayley S., 30’s, Emeryville, CA

“Orchid Tao has been instrumental in my life. I am learning to heal from past traumas with the tools she has given me through her coaching, journaling exercises, and daily affirmations for self-worth, anxiety, and any other issues that might surface. When implementing these techniques, I am able to maneuver through life with peace and clarity. I truly appreciate her work and service to me and others on the journey to healing and loving the Self.” –Athene N., 30’s, Phoenix, AZ

“I was heartbroken over my ex for 9 long years! While I had relationships with other men, they were just void fillers, because my heart painfully remained with him. Orchid helped me to know my self-worth from the core of my being, and finally knowing that I’m worthy and deserving of love is the greatest thing that ever happened to me!  I’m no longer an emotional prisoner, and I’m thrilled to report that I’ll be marrying the man of my dreams – a man I’m crazy about, who loves, adores, and cherishes me like no other!  None of this would’ve ever happened without doing self-work with Orchid!” -Veronica M. 44, San Jose, CA

“All I have to say is “WOW!’  Orchid is someone who truly serves from her heart, and that’s really hard to find.  Receiving her loving and compassionate guidance and support was the best thing that I ever did for myself.  I KNOW that working with Orchid saved me from having to endure many more years of pain and suffering, if not hurting for the rest of life!  And, I didn’t just get over my ex.  I created permanent shifts – shifts that guarantee that I’ll never find myself inside the arms of another undeserving man ever again. Here’s to being happy single!”  -Teresa M., 46, Rome, NY

“With regards to romantic relationships, namely the part where things fall apart and I am really hurting, Orchid is the first person I turn to for help. She brings to the table a brilliant mix of deep feminine sensitivity and practical tough-love logic, which allows me to feel a special sense of trust and safety. I treasure her gift and am grateful she is here sharing it with the world.” –Xavi P., 30’s, Ashland, OR

“After my abusive marriage of ten years, I entered another abusive relationship for five years.  While I knew that I was in a very dark place with both men, I couldn’t love myself enough to leave.  In working with Orchid, self-love stopped being completely illusive and ungraspable.  I was finally able to love myself and let go of my ex for good.  Since making this much needed shift in my life, I’ve attracted so many great people, including finding the true love of my life!  This work in amazing, and it works! -Pamela G., 47, Seattle, WA

“I was in a dead-end marriage and thought I was going to have to get a divorce because I had tried everything, including various family and marriage therapists for years and nothing worked! Then I found Orchid and what she taught me created a miracle in my relationship with my husband! Today, we share profound emotional intimacy and the best sexual intimacy we’ve ever had, and I finally feel seen, heard, important, and deeply, truly LOVED.”  -Jody S., 49, Toronto, Canada

“I was totally and completely devastated after my divorce.  I lost everything and had to start all over again, because I chose the wrong man.  And, the crazy thing is – I still wanted to be with him! Thanks to Orchid, I was not only able to let go and break my negative patterns, but also find my blessings in disguise.  She also helped me to let go of regret, anger, and fear, and forgive myself and others, truly freeing my heart for good.  Today I’m an emotionally independent and happy single woman, who’s enjoying life to the fullest! -Josie S., 39, New York, NY


“An abundance of gratitude and blessings to you for sharing your knowledge and talents with my co-workers and I. Your workshop on holistic balance was fun, genuine, and insightful. You’ve gifted us tools that enable us to navigate challenges and attract beauty and bounty into our lives.” –Leanne M., 30’s, Program Coordinator for The Girls Scouts, Phoenix, AZ

“I never thought I’d ever, ever, EVER get over my ex, but Orchid proved me WRONG! Working with her has made me realize that just how worthy and deserving of love I really am. I finally woke the hell up from my self-created suffering…And, now I know that you’re NEVER too old or unattractive to find true love! You just have to love yourself enough and know how to put yourself out there the right way. Orchid will surely show you how!” -Ramona A., 50’s, Portland, OR

“Coaching with Orchid is like talking to an incredibly wise, supportive, and creative best friend.” –R.M., 30’s, Los Angeles, CA

“I developed deep self-awareness and personal power. Now I can rely on myself to fill my own voids and heal my own wounds.” –D.W., 30’s, Phoenix, AZ

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